One of us
Legacy
by Horizon Group
Andrea Rádai
28. December 2019.
Alice Miller and her son Martin Miller talk to
each other, face to face, about what it's (was)
like to be a son and a mother in this family. In
reality, this dialogue, which encapsulates
several life stories, never took place, and was
put together from books, interviews,
descriptions and imaginary telephone
conversations by dramaturge Eszter Gyulay, who
works with the Horizon Group.
Alice Miller was one of the most important
therapists of the second half of the 20th
century. Her greatest achievement was to
introduce into psychology the perspective of the
child - the child whose whole life and
relationship with his or her own children can be
crippled by an abusive and manipulative parent.
This idea was considered quite radical at the
time of the publication of Miller's books, such
as The Drama of the Gifted Child and The Search
for the Real Self. And to a certain extent it
still is, since many worldviews that are still
valid today expect a child to be primarily
grateful to his or her parents, not critical.
This enlightened therapist, who wrote with great
ease and sensitivity, and whose books have been
translated into more than thirty languages, was
unable to see herself clearly - or at all - as a
mother. Her children spent years in
institutions, and she allowed her husband to
regularly beat and abuse her son Martin. She
spoke Polish with her husband, which her
children could not understand because they were
taught only German. This part of Alice Miller's
life story is mainly known from the book written
by her son, The Real Drama of a Gifted Child -
The Tragedy of Alice Miller. Martin Miller draws
on his mother's traumas during the Second World
War to analyse her tragedy - and thus his own
real-life story. Alice survived the Holocaust as
a Jew in the Warsaw ghetto and married a Gestapo
man - an inconceivably divisive situation, like
Martin's, who was the Nazi to his mother and the
Jew to his father.
I imagine that this material constantly teased,
bothered and disturbed Yvette Feuer while the
shock kept her captivated until she finally
'gave in' and, with the help of her fellow
artists, set about trying to figure out how to
make theatre out of it. Which is far from
obvious, even if the fictional dialogue is
self-evident as a basic setting (and the title
of this inspiring volume also refers to
theatre). The real drama, the theatre, lies in
the emotional ups and downs of the play, which
is rendered with stunning precision by the
actors, and in the gestures that condense the
characteristic manifestations of a mother-son
relationship based on a complex system of
repressions and outbursts. These have been found
and used with great flair by the director, Márk
Tárnoki...As the end of a good, hearty cry, the
final scene of the performance is soothing:
Martin sets off, ready to focus on the world
rather than his own parents, to discover it and
live his life at his own risk. |